In the past month, you have discovered your love of consumerism. Unfortunately, you have also felt the effects of a lack of personal funding and unsympathetic parents. I know this because we got Foxtel this month. Shortly after which I decided that even if it wasn’t a ridiculous waste of money I wouldn’t want it. Partly because for the majority of the time, there is bugger all that I actually want to watch and mostly because every single time you see a toy advertisement, you tell me that you want the item or ask me how you can get it.
So far we want Geli Baff, a Sofia the first Mermaid Doll, a Peppa Pig house, some Lala Loopsy babies, the Pet Parade set and the list goes on…All of a sudden it feels like every second thing out of your mouth is something selfish like I want or when can I have which is a shame. I get it, I do. Seeing all these shiny and new things on the tv makes them look so attractive. And I’d say they were all cheap and plastic and not worth it although the reality is that most of them are bloody expensive…and not worth it. So we will ride out the Foxtel trial and you will no doubt continue to lust after things that we wont buy you and which you will never afford on your own and then we will go back to watching ABC2. Which has no ads at all. I miss the ABC!
Also in the meanwhile or for a couples of whiles as you have started to refer to some periods of time, you may continue to pitch absolute fits when you don’t get what you want. We have had a return to the total meltdown, kick-and-scream-it-out tantrums this month. You will screech at the top of your lungs repeatedly but otherwise shut down and not listen to a thing we say or want to let us anywhere near you. You get so worked up that you are practically hyperventilating and I think you become more upset by your physical discomfort than whatever it is we have denied you. We have had this during the days this month but you have also woken us up a couple of times with night terrors which are pretty much the same. I think you are getting over-tired. Most of the time you get by through the day with no nap and you sleep through the night but now and then it all gets the better of you and you need some extra sleep. When you do get extra rest, you are much less cranky. You are still moody though.
When you are not having out and out fits of pique because we are the absolute worst and most horrible parents on the planet, you can get quite sensitive when we tell you no. You have started to put yourself in time out, sometimes at the first sign of trouble. We might tell you off for kicking your legs too close to Elliot’s head and sternly request that you stop and your response will be to get upset and run away to your room. Your bottom lip will come out, your eyes will be cast down and you will scamper off and throw yourself onto your bed or the chair or whatever surface will help you to fully wallow in your own self-pity. We never tell you to leave but there are apparently times when you feel that it is not worth fighting with us and you would rather feel sorry for yourself. Either that or you are smarter than we think and on some level you are just trying to manipulate us into feeling sorry for you. You love to control the environment around you.
Since we have had sickness in the house this month, you have taken to telling your father that he should take a rest during the day. I believe this is mostly because you see him as your competition for the tv and if he is in bed, you have free reign. Which is not far off because if you have been out at a playgroup or something in the morning, I am not adverse to you quietly watching “Genni tv” in the afternoon. I believe you also want him to rest though in the hope that he will be less cranky. That makes your life easier. When things don’t appear to be going your way though, you have started to tell us that you are making a deal.
We make deals with you all the time. This many mouthfuls for a dessert, this much quiet time for some tv, this amount of chores for an outing to the park. You have picked up the concept that deals help you to get what you want. You haven’t quite comprehended the concept of quid pro quo though. It has not quite sunk in that for you to get something that you want, we have to get something that we want in return. So when we ask you to stop doing something you want to do, you tell us no, I’ll do [this] and I’m making a deal. Which is Genevieve speak for I intend on doing exactly what I want to do and nothing else. So far it hasn’t worked for you at all but you still seem to try it on occasionally just to see if it will.
Other than that, you are still Miss Manners when it suits you. We get told off for speaking with our mouths full at the table or for doing anything that we tell you not to do. It seems you are frequently a cross between a mirror and a parrot. Particularly when you brought it home to me recently how often we say damn it around you. We were sitting in church (although thankfully not in a service) when you dropped some pencils and got frustrated. Your first response was to say damn it, damn it, damn it. My immediate response (apart from crap!) was don’t make a big deal, don’t make a big deal, don’t make a big deal. I asked you why you said those words. I suggested that if you were upset or frustrated you should say oh no or that’s a shame. I said the words you used were not nice words to say. It was at this time, one of the other kids in the room piped up and asked me what you had said. I told him that I wasn’t going to repeat what was said because we shouldn’t use those words and I had finished talking to you about it. There are things that we just shouldn’t say. It was at this point that he earnestly advised me that we don’t say what the hell either. No kid, no, we don’t. Especially not in church.
But despite your perhaps ill choice of words when you weren’t really thinking, I think you have just about memorised the prayers in the prayer book I had when I was a little girl. I gave you the book of goodnight prayers a while ago that contains a short verse for every night of the week. You like to say the right one each night and remind us if we forget. You are unfamiliar with some of the words though so sometimes you make bits up and just match the vocal sounds and syllables which you say very earnestly. Its quite cute. As is the fact that you wanted to cut your barbie’s hair. Most parents might be upset that you wished to take a pair of scissors to your doll however when we asked you why, you said that you wanted Barbie’s hair to be short just like yours. I figure that if you want your doll to look like you instead of you wanting to look like the doll, that means we are doing something right. So I told you that the next time we get your hair cut, we’ll ask the hairdresser to cut your doll’s hair too. I am very proud of you little one…but I still don’t agree with you cutting your dolls’ hair willy nilly.