Week 25

Week 25-2

Dear Genevieve,

Congratulations Little Bit, you have mastered the art of rolling front to back! It took you a little while but now you are able to roll all over the place. You still very much favor your stomach though. Ever since you learned to roll back to front, you seemed to opt for tummy time at every opportunity. If we put you on the floor, you’ll roll over. If we put you in your cot, you’ll roll over. Even if it takes a while.

Week 25-5

All the SIDS guidelines state that you should put infants down on their back to sleep as that is the safest position. We can’t keep you on your back. I definitely put you down that way but every time you wake up and I go in to get you, I find you on your stomach. If we are at the beginning of sleep time and you continually roll over and are fighting sleep then I sometimes go in and flip you back but after three or four times, I figure I’m only going to be prolonging the process if I keep at it so I leave you to go to sleep that way. If we didn’t have the video on the monitor, I wouldn’t know that you had rolled over anyway. I guess you are just going to be a tummy sleeper.

And whilst we are on the subject of sleep, we had a day this week where we were having real trouble getting more than about 20 consecutive minutes from you. I don’t find that incredibly unusual for your day sleeps because they have always been somewhat erratic but at night, we are definitely used to getting several hours at a time. We are wondering if you are cutting your next teeth. Since the last ones came in weeks ago, you would seem about due but we can’t see anything yet so I guess time will tell. In the mean time, Dymadon is our friend. It’s helping to keep me sane at least. I need the longest possible pockets of sleep that I can get at night and whilst I can cope with three hours at a time, less than that is hard work.

Week 25-3

Speaking of hard, your grip is certainly right up there. I remember when you didn’t want to hold anything. You could grasp things but you would only release them seconds later as if to say why on Earth am I holding this when you are right there and can do it for me. Now though, you grab chins, necks, hair and noses (thankfully not nose hairs) with abandon and hold on tight. Your aim is pretty good too. It wasn’t so long ago that you were just swatting in the general direction of things you wanted, now you can reach out and take. Those motor skills of yours are getting better all the time. I do however have to start teaching you that there are things you should not do – like BITE me!

Week 25-4

Ok, so just to put this out there, I know this is not the best parenting technique. I’m also sure that there would be a whole bucketload of people who’d want to open up a can of whoopass on me for the mere suggestion of my actions, but desperate times call for desperate measures. I have started pinching you every time you bite me…on the ear lobe…hard. I tried sternly telling you “No” and I inadvertently tried shouting out in pain which other people assure me can scare a baby out of the habit but you kept right on chomping. And it wasn’t as if you were crying out in pain yourself when I retaliated. You just kind of paused and stared at me as if to demand what do you think you are doing mum!?! It may just be my imagination but by the end of the week, I’m sure you were doing it less frequently.

Week 25

The other thing I thought I’d share with you this week is that apparently, you think your toothbrush (which I use in the loose sense of the word as it is merely a stick with a knobby, rubbery end to it) is the funniest thing on the planet. Either that or it’s just that you think your dad is a twit. You two had this great game going where your dad would ask you where to put your toothbrush and suggest somewhere like your ear before proceeding to rest the toothbrush there. Then he would throw his hands up in the air and speak on your behalf saying “no, dats so sil-ly” in a funny voice. Each time he suggested somewhere absurd (and claimed that it was so silly) you would crack up in laughter. Eventually you were both giggling at each other like loons. It was very cute. You are both lucky to have each other.

Alles Liebe,

Lexelah

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Week 24

Week 24

Dear Genevieve,

Now that the weather is a little cooler, I have to say that zippered hoodies are the best thing ever. I mean, when I go in to feed you at night, they allow me to ostensibly rug up in a jumper but also leave you access to the boob. And, you can play with the strings from the hood, stopping you from scratching, punching and pushing at me. Win-win!

So this week, like last week, we really screwed with your routine. Not that you actually have a fixed routine but we have been putting you down for the night mostly between 5:30pm and 6:30pm for a little while now and I have been making you nap more during the day. This week we had a couple more days and nights out of the house though and I think that takes its toll on you.

Week 24-3

Sometimes I worry that I am not giving you enough structure and routine. I wonder whether you would be happier if you always had a bath before bed and you always heard the same music playing or we read the same story. I have tried to incorporate some of these things however, more often than not, I just forget. Sorry! You get to the point that I really believe I need to put you to bed and then it’s nappy change, into the sleepy sack, kiss daddy and have a last feed. At which point, we’re way beyond the time to stick you in the shower or read to you, and the sleepy music is on the iPhone at the other end of the house. I sing you the same lullabies when I am trying to comfort you but then I don’t sing them every night. Is that a failure as a parent?

And is it bad that I like how you are really cuddly when you are sick? You got another cold this week. You were all snotty with big wet boogers up your nose that could only be removed with the nasal aspiration thingy. Once again, you weren’t very impressed when we shoved it up your nostrils but the exercise did mean that you could breathe properly. We never want you to be sick. Our hearts go out to you when we know you are suffering and you just don’t feel right. You are however, more content to just cuddle up to me and rest when you’re under the weather and thats kind of sweet. Normally you move around a fair bit. Although I have to say, not as much as some babies.

Week 24-2

You like to kick. You have done for ages. Sometimes it seems like your little legs are always pumping (or thumping depending upon the orientation of your body). We see this when we hold you. When you are in your bouncinette. When you are on the change table…You also like to know what is going on all the time (so much so that you hate to sleep when we are out in public) and will twist around so you can see everything around you. We sometimes call you our wriggle worm. For all that you seem constantly engaged and interested however, you don’t seem to have the same kamikaze instinct that sees other babies launch their body like a mini projectile in all sorts of directions. I can in fact hold you with one arm.

I can hold you against me by snaking one forearm under your butt and then just walk around with you. Some babies require the additional support of the opposite hand on their torso lest they catapult themselves towards the ground but you seem to have a bit more self-preservation. That doesn’t mean we don’t have that extra hand available, just in case. You are still learning how heavy your head is and occasionally it leads and takes your body somewhere I don’t think you were expecting to go. In general though, holding you is not like holding a wild cat and more like holding a pussy cat. You are just not still. Unless you are really tired or sick.

Towards the end of the week though you were a little better. So of course we ended up pushing you, especially on the Sunday when we went spent practically the whole day out. We started off at the baby markets where we braved the crowds and came out with a couple of bargains. I have a feeling that some of the purchases were a little more for us than you – your dad was in pram heaven – but we were glad we went. After that, we went to the Medieval Fayre. This too was crowded and I was off in my own world a bit when I was taking photos. I think your dad was enjoying all of the people who wanted to stop and look at the cute baby. By the end of the day though, you had totally had enough and were letting us know it. You wanted out of there.

Week 24-4

So that was the week. Which is fortunately not your average one. I did mention to your dad that we should get a photo of someone in a crazy medieval costume holding you (since opportunities like that don’t come around every day) but he said no, he thought that was weird. What he didn’t think was weird was that some random lady he had been talking to had asked to hold you. He said that was fine and passed you over but he didn’t want to pass you off to a jousting knight or a burly Viking. Although come to think of it, the majority of the people who were dressed up were associated with jousts, swords, guns, axes, rapiers and other assorted weapons so maybe it’s not so weird after all. They weren’t all violent though. Honest.

Alles Liebe,

Lexelah

Week 23

Week 23-5

Dear Genevieve,

I think you and I need to have a chat about feeding. This biting thing you’ve got going? I don’t like it. Actually, there are several things that I don’t like at the moment. I remember when I used to be able to put you on the boob and you’d happily suck away. Sometimes for milk and sometimes just for comfort. You would on occasion use me as a dummy. The thing was though, when you were latched, you were content and still. Sure, I couldn’t exactly walk around and do chores whilst you were attached but I could watch tv. Now, it’s a different matter.

Now I have to pay constant attention when I feed you. Now, you like to grab and pinch me with the hand that is underneath whilst clamping your jaw closed, pushing your feet against anything you can find, arching your back and pushing down with the hand on top. Since you have sharp nails that I can never quite cut off, the grabbing and pinching really hurts. Since you have teeth, the clamping of your jaw really hurts. Since my body wasn’t really made to stretch like you have been asking, the pull of your suck and the push of your arm (added to by the pushing of your feet) wait for it…really hurts! I have to concentrate when I feed you and watch you like a hawk to fend off your painful movements or extract myself before you really get going. At least for the feeds in the day. At night, you are still gentle, soft and cuddly but when you are wide awake and distractable…that is another matter entirely.

Week 23-2

On the other hand, can I just say how pleased we are at the way you have taken to food so far. I have been told that you need to feed infants a new food at least four times to ascertain whether or not they like it. Apparently, if they initially turn their head and refuse to eat it, this is not an accurate indication that they have an aversion. To date, you have not turned your nose up at anything. You have eaten whatever we have given you. We have mostly given you blended purees such as spinach, peas, broccoli and apple, or chicken & apricot but you have swallowed every spoonful and opened your mouth for more. Even the straight prune. Which I may have given you a little too much of initially.

We are still working out how to keep you nourished and regular. When you don’t poop, you get cranky. And unfortunately, the first foods that we happened to feed you we’re not the best for avoiding constipation. So I had a look to see if I could feed you prunes. The general consensus seemed to be yes but I couldn’t find any advice on how much to feed you. I therefore fed you a “portion” as I would have done with apple or carrot. This is apparently a lot. As evidenced by the big poop you did not 20 minutes after you ate. Then the poop later that night. Then the poop early the next morning. All of which were kind of poopsplosive. I think we cleared out everything after that. I don’t feed you that much prune any more.

Week 23

So my little girl, you are definitely growing up and changing. Sometimes this is a good thing because its interesting to see whats next but sometimes is sad, for a couple of reasons. Firstly, because at the same time as saying hello to a new stage, I say goodbye to an old one and secondly, because it brings me ever closer to the day I go back to work. Im having mixed feelings about this at the moment. On one hand, I am excited at the thought of going back to my job and working my brain in another way but on the other hand, I will miss being with you. I will miss being the one who knows everything about you and the person who is (literally) at the centre of your world. I know that other people and other environments have a lot to offer you but I will miss that I won’t be there to share some of those things with you.

Week 23-4

What else for this week? Well I was once again reminded of the fact that I am so not supermum. Not that I am uninterested in your development, but it is clear that I read a lot less than other new mums. Of late, I have been listening to women in my mother’s group ask whether other babies have gone through things like the “four month sleep regression”. They ask did you do that? To which I honestly have to say, I don’t know. I mean, you sleep. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Did you sleep well prior to four months and then bang, it’s all over Grover and you were rotten? I wouldn’t have a clue off the top of my head. Oh well, let’s chalk that up to me being a relaxed mum.

Week 23-3

You are certainly a lot more relaxed these days. At least when we put you in the car. You even slept the whole way when we went to Canberra on the weekend. The last time we went on a long trip, you only managed a couple of hours before you’d had enough but this time you were quiet the whole way. It was awesome. And then you didn’t cry every time Gigi went to hold you which was also much appreciated. I think you really would have given her a complex if you’d kept that up. You seemed to enjoy going running with your dad in the new spiffy running stroller he desperately wanted and finally, you slept most of the way home. You weren’t so keen on sleeping for long in the peanut we bought for you so your dad and I would have liked some more sleep over the weekend but we survived.

Perhaps I should also mention that this weekend held my first mother’s day. You were of course a little too little to get/make me anything yourself. So there was no burnt toast or spilled hot chocolate. You also don’t really have words yet to tell me anything on the day but I’m sure you and your dad were thinking that you appreciated me on the day. You were? Yes, I thought so.

Alles Liebe,

Lexelah

Week 22

Week 22-2

Dear Genevieve,

I have to say that I think we are getting to my favourite age so far. I mean the newborn stage was lovely. I miss your gentle stretches, your funny little snuffles, your quiet cries and the way you would just fall asleep on my chest. All of those things were charming, but now…now you smile a lot more readily. Even if it is at your dad. Now you are stronger and more solid – a lot less fragile. Your hugs are pretty awesome too, because when you reach your arms around my neck, it feels like you are actually holding on to me.

Week 22-3

More of your personality is shining through each day and I can imagine you turning into an opinionated little girl who knows her own mind and is not afraid to let everyone else know it. And I imagine that the more we hang around Neighbourette’s children, the more this development will come on sooner rather than later. I may not like you so much when your favorite word is “no” of course (although I will always love you), but I am enjoying seeing you progress into the toddler you will become. At least most of the time.

Week 22

I am not really enjoying the 4am screaming fits because you are apparently ready to get up whilst your father and I would dearly love to go back to sleep. Well, it’s either you want to get up or you want to get fed but if its a feed that happens 2 hours after the last time I fed you between the hours of 12am and 6am, that is not something that I am prepared to accommodate either. You do seem to be hungrier now than you have been before. Where I used to feed you for 5-10 minutes on one side only per feed, you regularly take both sides now. So whether you are going through another growth spurt or getting to the stage where you need more solid food, I don’t know. I do know though, that you don’t need feeds every 2 hours at night.

I know that you can easily go 4 or maybe 5 hours without added sustenance. You could probably go longer but at this stage, I’d be happy with that. We recently caught up with some of the other couples that we met at our anti-natal class and stories were shared of infants that went to sleep like clockwork at around 7pm and stayed asleep until at least 6am the following morning. They were all formula fed and I never actually expected you to behave the same way, but it would be nice if we could get a little more sleep. I miss sleep. I must admit I have contemplated (on more than one occasion) giving you formula at night to see if you might then sleep through. I have also put more thought into trying to force a new habit (like with the sleep training stuff) but then I think about how I do actually like breast feeding and I’m scared of a week of hell.

Week 22-4

Oh well, it will eventually sort itself out I am sure. Either you will come around to a routine we are prepared to encourage on your own, or push will come to shove and we will commit to trying a new technique with you. The date when I am due to go back to work looms ever closer and then I know there will be a number of adjustments. Hopefully they won’t be too painful.

Alles Liebe,

Lexelah